Good ideas for the songs...just remembered another old song that brings my partner to mind...."Whatsa matta you? Hey! You gotta no respect? Whadda ya think ya do? Itsa not so bad. Itsa nice-a place...Ah, shaduppa you face!"
Little bitter, tonight. My therapist said an interesting thing today. She said "If your partner had worked on 'her', the two of you wouldn't have had to work on the 'us'". Other than some fine tuning, of course. She just meant that my partner seems to have many issues that tainted her perception of our relationship. I own my part, but I maintain that those issues could have been worked out without her cutting and running. And I can NOT believe that she could think that 2 weeks of fun with the OP--and the EA that preceded it--could in any way be construed as potential for a lasting relationship. Is she out of her mind?
An old friend I hadn't seen in a couple of years told me today that her partner of 10 years left her a couple of years ago, saying much the same thing my partner has ("it's over", "I'm done", "never"), and taking up with an OP. One year later, the partner came back, saying how stupid she'd been and she thought that the OP was "the one", but she was wrong. She wanted to come back. And my friend said no, she'd moved on. Granted, her partner had really burned bridges by writing vile, insulting e-mails, letters, etc. But it does show that sometimes they do come back--even if they say "never". And it also shows we have choices.
"In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage." -- Robert Anderson
