FLTC: from Iraq

[FaithfulH]

Faithful: How did this evolve for you? You seemed pretty hopeless last year as I recall. I can't ever see my wife ever softening...on anything she has every done, she has nerv thought she was a bit at fault, except when it came to D16, and then she over-blamed herself...and of course, her unhappiness an the M.
Whether it be neighborsd or former friends....she's never thought she was at fualt for any of the issues where she's thrown them under the bus. But....

FLTC, I was absolutely hopeless last year. In November, I got on Match.com and set up a date....just 3 months after my W filed. Thank God that AmyC and others here slapped me back to sensibility and I never met the lady. In December I almost accepted a job move to Florida...which would have surely hurt my chances of reconciling (I think). But, in February, things began to turn rapidly. Suddenly my W filed a "Motion for Reconciliation" which in essence puts the whole Divorce process on hold for 6 months while you determine if you can make a go of it. At the time, she told me it was so she could spend time with our kids...which she did....but, it was obviously because she was beginning to believe in US....if only slightly. The next 3 months brought lots of bright spots...my W threw birthday parties for both of our teenage sons....AND ME! Then she went with me to my parent's 50th wedding anniversary in KC...a huge thing. At the end of May, we began the reconciliation in earnest....just like an extended honeymoon...AMAZING! I have to say that this whole thing has been a miracle before my eyes. God gets all the glory...if I get ANY credit it is for staying out of His way!