Thanks for the great advice fellow DB'ers . . . business-like is a great suggestion. Today was horrible. Every single email with any decision that I cc'd her on (she works from home) turned into a reprimand, berating session, blaming flame. She wanted to "talk" after work, but she had that horrid look of someone about to pour acid into a wound, so I asked if we could schedule a time, and she wouldn't do anything sooner than Saturday, and that was only to let me get a few things from the house.
Unfortunately, we have much going on at the biz. She wants to be included in every decision, which is fine except that she won't answer the phone or email when a decision needs to be made, and each decision is a time to go over the past.
She said she stopped seeing her counselor so she would have more money to spend on her attorneys (yes, 2). And she threatened to "bury" the busininess, make us sell all our assets and was so hateful, I was scared to even talk to her. Any chance she got today to go over past episodes, times she was over ruled on business decisions (from years ago - even though I started the biz and lead it for the past 15 years). It looks like it gets to the attorneys.
I'm doing everything I can from the advise that I have been given on this board and in the DB book - although I'm only up to page 152 right now - things just seem like they are moving too fast downward and I can't save this, nor find the time to finish the book!
I wish there was a way that I could create some space. If it weren't for this unhealthy business connection. I can't get room to show her that I am changing, being much more patient, respectful, not blaming. She takes it as an opportunity to dig deeper, firing personal assaults.
I can't believe in how much pain she is. Sorry does nothing except piss her off.
