Always, I would hardly calll that whining. PULEEZ. Your H is being a grade A jerk right now. Not sure what he's trying to prove, but he's making his own life more difficult, as he has continued to do over the past few years.
I know you're angry and scratching your head as to how he could do this to you. Remember, he is not of sound mind. Don't waste your time dwelling on how mean he has become. He is who he is right now and clearly that train has left the station.
So, all you can do is find a way to deal with the anger. Work through it. Then yuo need to find the strength to go through this trial, if it in fact comes to that. You can and will get through it just as you have gotten through everything else that has happened. If someone asked you 5 years ago if you thought you'd survive what you've been through, you'd probably have said no. Yet here you are - better and stronger than ever.
Each chapter of this messy road presents you with another opportunity to grow. Your H continues to regress and you continue to grow.
It may not even get to that. His L may advise him against it. But just know that you CAN handle whatever is thrown your way. And one day, this mess will be over, for good.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
