It's like you are playing his game. You want to change the playing field all together. I can't tell what the tone was in this exchange, but, be honest, were you in a friendly, care-free, GAL tone or something that could be construed as negative?
It's hard to say why he is mad, but it sounds to me like you are drawing him in and he is responding to that in a positive way but then you seem to be toying with him because you have some power. Again, I don't know for sure. Just my interpretation.
The tone on this was pretty blah. I was nice, not rude, but not really caring either. I really didn't not go there to play the game. I guess I mainly didn't for one because I really wanted to stay and listen to the music, two because I guess I'm trying to set a boundary. He needs to make up his mind. He can't just get drunk and call and expect me to come running. Then the rest of the week he doesn't call, or come see me. Don't think so!!
But by not going I have really had a few rough days since. Too many what if's going through my head. Too much analyzing his motives for calling, his thoughts when I didn't show up, now what's he going to do. I know that I need to stop this but it is sooooo much easier said than done.
It is hard to say why he is acting so angry towards me. And any guesses are just that, guesses. But in my heart and soul I am praying that it is because he is starting to "see" again and he sees the mess he has created this summer. And all he feels now is guilt.
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
