Not that I disagree that a sizable majority of men function just as you describe, but this whole "play hard to get so he won't think you're loose" thing makes both me and my cat want to scratch. All it really says is "I'm willing to play games to conform to a certain standard you have in your head that means nothing with regards to the way I'll act after we're married"….
Ah. You were agreeing with a passage, but not with the spirit of my argument. I understand.
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But regardless of this, it doesn’t change how I feel about a woman who I see as too “easy.”
There will be men who will be mature enough to deal with both the fact that she likes sex and that, in a committed relationship, she won't seek it elsewhere.
Yep. And there will be men who are not mature enough to think that. Maybe I am one of them. I’m willing to bet there are a lot of guys out there like me.
Yes, I'm sure there are. I just find it rather tiring to hear from someone that they understand it's a game and nothing but a game; but need to see you play it in order to feel "respect", in other words, safe.
A script written into our reptile brains. My cat dislikes scripts. And reptiles are born to be swatted. *stretches, and yawns*
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As for Nop’s suggestion that she find a “reformed player,” well, frankly I don’t know what to make of that. Best I can tell, a “reformed player” is really the “infidel” of today, sleeping with lots of women, having free sex, possibly cheating on his girlfriend/wife, only having done so in the past. So if you are cheating today, you are an infidel. If you cheated in the past, you are a “reformed player?” If such a person can’t be trusted while in infidel mode, why would you want to risk that such a person is “reformed?” Maybe its just my misunderstanding of the semantics.
I was thinking more in terms of serial monogamist, or rather one who dated many people but refused/was unable to make long-term commitments, but was tired of "playing" and wanted to make them now. Sort of a blackfoot by inclination and not by trauma.
