You agree? But you just told me that you would have seen a girl who had sex with you quickly as loose "back in the dating days". Now you agree it means nothing. Does that mean you've matured?
Huh? I am agreeing with your statement:
Not that I disagree that a sizable majority of men function just as you describe, but this whole "play hard to get so he won't think you're loose" thing makes both me and my cat want to scratch. All it really says is "I'm willing to play games to conform to a certain standard you have in your head that means nothing with regards to the way I'll act after we're married"….
But regardless of this, it doesn’t change how I feel about a woman who I see as too “easy.”
There will be men who will be mature enough to deal with both the fact that she likes sex and that, in a committed relationship, she won't seek it elsewhere.
Yep. And there will be men who are not mature enough to think that. Maybe I am one of them. I’m willing to bet there are a lot of guys out there like me.
Lil said:
I think Mojo said NG gave off an "ambivalence about LTR" vibe.
The question that comes to my mind is why did NG give off this vibe (assuming he meant to do so)? Was it because he does not want to get serious with anyone, that he has some kind of commitment issue? Or maybe he likes dating white women but knows his mom will scream if he brings one home? Or maybe something else about Mojo prompts him to put out that vibe?
I don’t know what it is, nor do I care. But as differentiated as Mojo is trying to be, I think she still ties her self image too closely to how well a man responds to her sexually. If she does this, then running into one (or several) of those “immature men” will only hurt her more.
As for Nop’s suggestion that she find a “reformed player,” well, frankly I don’t know what to make of that. Best I can tell, a “reformed player” is really the “infidel” of today, sleeping with lots of women, having free sex, possibly cheating on his girlfriend/wife, only having done so in the past. So if you are cheating today, you are an infidel. If you cheated in the past, you are a “reformed player?” If such a person can’t be trusted while in infidel mode, why would you want to risk that such a person is “reformed?” Maybe its just my misunderstanding of the semantics.
