I have read lots on these websites that the OP infatuation can be like drugs and that the separation that a person goes through is like withdrawal. If this OM is honorable and does the right thing by you & your W by cutting all ties then you have a good chance of working things out. Yes, she is going to be mad as a hornet for a while but once she gets over that I bet she will be racked with guilt and depression. Sounds like she is feeling that way now.

Very ballsy of you to converse with the OM but in this case if he is true to his word it may have worked in your favor.

Good luck again with your sitch.


Me: 30
EX-H: 37
DD: 5
Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC.
Divorce Final 8/14/08.
Trying to move on with new life.