I couldn't tell from your reply whether you agreed or disagreed with what I said.
My point is that sure, you try to think ahead, but so many variables are outside our control, especially those involving other people, so often we make very big decisions without really being sure.
Yes, I agree with you 100% ! I was just pointing out that in the case of my ex, she made the leap off of the cliff of divorce and was not prepared for rocks at the bottom (me finding someone else) Had she been more prepared or thought things through more, she probably still jumps but maybe the landing would not have hurt so much.
Corri has pretty much pounded it into my head that yes, we can't control all the variables when it comes to others but WE CAN control how WE react to those variables. If we can somewhat prepare ourselves for whatever variables we can foresee, then we can control how we are going to choose to react.
