I asked H to leave; regret-now what?

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Now I know why Patience is a virtue. DB is not for the impatient, in my case it is going at a snail's pace, however that is some movement. My H called and asked if some mail came from a specific business; I told him no and then it was "oh, okay,thank you, bye." Not much, but some contact.

But the reason for the post is that I started reading a book called "Real Love in Marriage" by G. Baer, M.D. (luckily we have a great city library or I'd go broke with the books). There is a section on "Getting and Protecting Behaviors" which was really interesting and applied to my H and my actions.

If our separation doesn't lead to a reconciliation and restoration of our M, at least I will have learned how to respond better and that's a positive move. Have a better day !