What is reasonable and what is not?

[cpolk]

I totally understand...when I was doing that snooping I would feel insecure that I didn't know; then worse when I confirmed it, then worse still when I would ask about it; and it was addictive.

Basically it came down to this a little over 3 weeks ago. I told my W I'm done snooping. She had her freedom to go but choose to stay; that came with the no contact order with OM. I don't think she has; no, I don't know for sure. I needed the line in the sand for my own sanity.

I've seen improvement with our interactions lately. My mind is settled, she's chilled out some now that I'm not watching behind her back. At the same time she knows the seriousness behind my words from 3 weeks ago too. If she talks to him...she's gone; that day. And we'd then be forever finished.

I think that last part may come off as a little harsh; but that's the part where I stopped bending over backward...

With all due respect...this road we are all on is only wide enough for a two way street. Your ExH has somehow found himself in a make-shift turning lane.