Girl...I have read over your sit, and I think that you are doing wonderfully, sounds like your H is coming out of the tunnel!
My H and I did retro this past weekend, and it was, is an amazing experiance! I think that you will get a tremendous amount from it, and see the changes for the best!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!