What is reasonable and what is not?

[Startingover2]

So, by your wife letting OM go......are you going on blind faith and trust that she is or do you look for more concrete proof? I only ask that because I feel like now I am in this snooping and looking for things mode. Its almost addictive which is terrifying. All of exh's actions point to him only being with me. The only reason I know about the contact with OW is through his phone. I tell myself I need to stop snooping and just go with it, but I don't want to be stupid and in denial either.

Your right, the obcessive hatred of OW does take its toll. When I see her it makes my stomach turn. When he and I were separated and I knew he was seeing her I didn't care for her, but I didn't feel this seething anger and hate for her either. Now with our current situation and trying to make this R work and her staying involved I am really having issues.

I am going to look for that book today. I want to stop feeling these feelings.