What is reasonable and what is not?

[cpolk]

Yeah, you know the bad part of that 'hatred' you have is the only person its really going to effect is you. The first R book I read put me on the path I'm on now and it had alot to do with letting those feelings go (at least to the best that you can). The book, "How to Heal a Painful Relationship, and If Necessary Part as Friends". I had harbored so much mistrust, resentment, and anger toward my W and OM and the sit that I was getting nothing accomplished and I was doing a lot of dwelling. That book empowered me to 'release the evil'. I'm much freer now.

This might be a stupid question, but have you tried to talk to OW? Stranger things have happened, does she realize? Via email that is exactly what I did with my W's OM. He seemed to take it to heart; time will tell. My W also seems to be complying with letting him go too. Again time will tell.

Food for though perhaps...