Divorcing your H is a big decision that I know you have been wrestling with for a long time. I do just want to make one point. As I've watched several couples in the weeks leading up to Retrouvaille, I've noticed what I call a fear of Retrouvaille happening. I don't know if it's a fear of change. That they feel Retrouvaille will change them, and they are not sure they really want to change, or a fear of hearing things they don't want to hear, or what. But I see it happen again and again.
I just want to assure you that Retrouvaille is a really pleasant, happy weekend. It is not a lot of psychological work, it is not group discussions. It's simply a time you spend with your own husband talking about what matters to you in your life. I don't know what in the brochure put you off. I remember thinking "we don't belong there" when I read the brochure too. But I did belong there. And now that it is 9 months past Retrouvaille, I miss it and would like to go back. It was a happy time and a safe place for me where I saw the often hidden nice side of my husband again.
