Thanks for wondering about me. I`m still in limbo. My H still wants to be alone, he thinks he did the right thing by me by sticking around until I finshed school before he takes off with a clear conscience.
He acts like the old H, but does have moments of MLC monster. I`ve learned like you did, to walk away when his behavior becomes wacky and I never take anything personally, after all, it is all about him, still.
It does hurt me to know that after all this time of being in the same house and him sharing my life, ( I`m still kept out of his life, away from his family,) that he feels the same way. He deserves an oscar for his performance, or, maybe he doesn`t want to walk away, he just won`t admit it to himself.
Anyway, I`m pushing forward with the notion that he wants out, but he`ll have to wait until I`m ready financially. He`s freaking out with the fact that I`m entitled to half his pension, and he mentioned some kind of payout for me if I leave his pension alone. Well, HELLO, because of him I had to start over at 50, and whatever small pension I have on my own will not be enough should I live to a ripe old age.
Started a new job, hate it, am job hunting again, this puts a hold on his plans, but who cares. I am entitled to work at a job I like, I will not be pressured to do otherwise, by him or anybody else.
I have my grandbabies ( 2 1/2, 1, and another on the way) my adult babies who are my biggest supporters, my Jeep, my cat, and most importantly, self-respect. These are the treasures he`ll never take from me.
