So I ended up texting OM for about an hour. He claims they are just friends and that I was whacked out for not letting her talk to another man. I explained how secretive it was and how addicted she seemed to him. After a while, he said he respected my position and understood how it would come off as something else based on her hiding it etc. Could it be possible that she's infatuated with him and he really isn't interested in her more? (I'm a guy, so I know the "any port in the storm" routine). He said he would back off, to which I replied if they were just friends I don't have an issue with it. If it turns into something more, I'd kick his ass. His W cheated on him, and he said he wouldn't do that to anyone else.
In conversation with W last night, it appears that one of her big issues is that I manipulate (no crap huh?) and guilt her into doing things. I can admit that sometimes I do, but I didn't know I did it all the time!! Any suggestions on how to deal with that? I've researched anger, relationships, etc, but not sure where to start with that one.
I let W know this morning that I had been texting OM. She was furious. I told her it was cool and I wasn't going to bother her about it. She freaked and said he would never talk to her again and that I was ruining her life. That hurt. Taking another man from her is ruining her life!
Anyway... I've told her I'm leaving her alone... she stayed home from work today and I'm in the basement while she's upstairs. I'm going to avoid as much as possible.
I texted OM and told him her comments this morning and he replied that she had called him (while I took our D's to school)and he didn't answer. He responded with a text stating "You guys need space.. You cannot work out a 2 person relationship with 3 people." He also told me that he'll be nice, but he respects my position and will keep his distance.
W hasn't really spoken to me other than asking for the checkbook to order school pictures of our D.
