[/quote]How is asking your H to acknowledge your attractiveness being needy or whiny? Do you expect your H to be defensive or rejecting if you ask for this? [quote]
Cl,
Thats just it, shouldn't be needy or whiney but I wonder if H would see it as such.
Hmmm,What would i like to see H do more of you ask.
More I love you's (but he also has to want to say it. He's said it twice but i also think he said it because he was afraid I would leave).
Definitaly more R talk (which I know I have to initiate and keep him in the convo).
Just to do the nice little things he used to do before his MLC. IE:he used to make me a foot bath when I got home, candle light dinners a couple of times, Flowers for no reason( I did get some recently because he knew i was upset about phone call from the person who thinks i need to know things).
These may not be big things but when you had them and now don't they mean alot.
Less of: Less Quietness about our R.
Less work (he works to much but, I would rather he keep his side job and Quit his full time job where OW works. He can turn the side job into full time but he has been where he ias so long i think it is a comfort zone for him. But that is up to him.
What are you plans for more or less of with your W?
Maybe we can use this to help us to work on the fear factor!
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
