Rollar Coasters are no longer fun

[mkultra]

Part of me thinks you need to pack up your kids and move to a different state and not leave him the forwarding address.

My next door neighbour counsels couples as her ministry in her church. She used to tell me what God binds together let no man break apart kind of stuff. I was grateful to have a pro marriage person who understood me. Until one day when she heard the hateful verbal abuse my H spewed to me in the garage away from the kids. She heard it and approached me the next day. She cried and said that his abuse would escalate because my unconditional love repulsed him and made him feel even more shame and guilt. IIn my H's eyes, it would be easier for me to hate him and react like a wicked person than to stand lovingly by his side while he was disrespecting me.

Your H is beyond your help. He is mentally ill and should probably only have suprevised visits with your kids. You may need a forum that deals with bipolar as this sounds way extreme, beyond MLC stuff. Where are his parents in all of this? His meds are up to him. For better or worse is one thing but how can you help him if you are being abused yourself? Think of how this look sto your kids. They will start to normalize this sitch and accept it. Oh goodness, I am not a TH but that is a huge fear of mine with my kids so I have to stand up for myself to show my D6 not to accept a bad man/ mean man/ yelling man, etc.