Should I bring home the flowers?

[mkultra]

Maybe codependent is not a bad thing then? Maybe there is a better term for it? I always thought it meant when we are enablers of habits that can be harmful or unhealthy but we cannot break free because of a codependency? Raising kids and working on a marriage even when it is stale or seems unhappy does not seem codependent, but you can make changes now so it is not too late.

I think my H also went through a phase where he wnted to play house and happy family after physical seperation but he would never stay to watch a movie or eat in the family home. That seems like a good place to be SummerD. It sounds like you are still Acting As If so stay positive.

Pony, Let us know how the dating world is. I think Homer is right and divorce do get busted more quickly when the LBS dates. It is good on so many levels. It is a wake up call, an ego boost for someone previously foresaken, it shows that the LBS has a choice and is no longer a pursuer, but detached.