Hi-- Sometimes I think the "friends" thing lets them off the hook a bit too much. I've been DB'ing and LRT'ing and being friendly and upbeat all over the place, and H is telling his family that our separation is "untraumatic" and the kids are "fine" with it! Breton, it might be time for the After the Last Resort Technique (pp. 218-219 in DR). It sounds like you are ready to let him go if it doesn't wake him up.
