All I can say is that right now my PMA is way up, and my H seems to be really trying. A few weeks ago...two weeks ago? I was having all the same grumbling, irksome "is this enough" kinds of feelings we all get from time to time.
What changed? I don't really know...CJ is just a lot more playful, affectionate, doing stuff, and of course that makes me more relaxed, playful.....hang in there is the bottom line here!
Maybe is CJ is cruising your thread he'd care to share?