Rollar Coasters are no longer fun

[Amy]

OK I failed my goals... here is where we are now help.. this may take a while....

We had a big blow up on Friday night. The details are not fun so i wont go into them but it was bad. On Saturday he had decided to have my cell phone cut off. I panicked because he was getting nastier and talked to all of my family and friends and made the decision I would most likely move up north to where I come from about 1400 miles from here.

He sends me the following email.

""Some of what I hear you want to know about is,

The dogs / animals, I will take care of them.

The kids stuff, if you leave their stuff I'll put it into storage.

The house, I'll get things cleaned up and fixed up then sell it. You can stay in the house as long as possible if you continue to stay here in the state, if you move out, I will proceed with fixing it up and selling it.

The Van, I wont report it stolen, and I will continue to pay for it until the divorce is final, and we can see what has to happen then.

Going out of state, I don't mind if you take the kids out of state for a few months or until this thing is resolved, but I do not consent to a permanent move.
We will keep the current visitation, 1 day a week and every other weekend.

The kids and your insurance, well of course I will take care of that until everything is finalized, and then I will continue to take care of the kids.

All bill info needs to be turned over to me.

My work laptop and key fob needs to be turned over to me.

Meeting today, well as much as I don't think we should, we can meet around 3:30 at mall, I'll bring my parents you can bring Jodie if you like or whomever.

Anything else we can fill in on this sheet and we both can sign it, as well as get it notarized, also if you are agreeable my mother can notarize it, if not we will have to make other arrangements, I will only sign what we agree upon in front of a notary.

On monday, I will try to set up some child support for you, you will need to have a bank account so I can have it direct deposited into that account.

Please go over this before we meet, and make any correction you may want. I will do the same until we have what we both can agree upon and then we can meet to sign this. We should only be meeting to sign this, anything else should be done in front of a attorney. I feel like you, we can agree upon what we both want without the cost of an attorney, so we can best do this be email, then to meet to sign the paper.""

I send back what I want and hear nothing back from him. (did find out that he and his girlfriend were in a car wreck on Saturday afternoon and that is why we couldn't meet) On Sunday no contact at all. My daughter called him like 5 times and he wouldn’t even answer her. On Monday morning I was still thinking I was going to move but I wasn’t sure what to do so my sister said she had to have a decision by 10 am to get plane tickets. I text him I need to talk to him by 10 am or I would have to make the decision without him.

He immediately called and asked me to come to his work. I went and we talked and talked and so much went on and he finally convinced me to stay for a bit. Later that day he called me and told me he was in love with two women and didn’t know what to do.

I called him back an hour later and said I deserve better than being the other woman. I said that I was going to take off my wedding rings and if he was gonna go out so was I. I asked him what time he would be at the house to look at my pipes that were backing up and told him I would go out with friends while he did that. He begged me to be there because he wanted to talk.

That night he came over talked to me again and told me he loved me and he was going to try to let the other woman go but he didn’t want to hurt her so he would let her down easy. We had an amazing night and even went to a local park and made love on the boardwalk out under the stars (craziest thing we have ever done) it was awesome. After it was over he told me he was going to spend the night at his moms and go from there.

Well then…..this morning I drive by and he is not at his moms (we live 4 houses away). I called him and talked to him and he asked me to meet him at his work again. I go there and he tells me he stayed with her and that he was confused. I made him call her in front of me and tell her what we did and he did and she did what I thought and she said it was over. Well I am not sure that was a good idea.

This afternoon he called me back and told me it was over he was seeing a lawyer and that he was divorcing me. He went to his lawyer and decided on trying mediation and asked me if I would. I said sure (trying to divorce bust here) The mediator called me and said he comes to tampa every 5 weeks and that he would be here Monday. I said sorry Monday is no good so I will go for the end of October date. That bought me 5 weeks. Ok so I have no intention of cooperating with this but….

Tonight the kids and him all went to the movies with us and we had a great time it was amazing and as soon as it was over he got short and nasty with me and told me nothing changed and we were still divorcing.

Can you all please tell me at this point what do I do? How do I divorce bust?? Please help me because I am totally confused and this is my last shot. I have 5 weeks to get my act together. Can you all please advise??

My opinion is he doesn't want me right now but doesn't want anyone else to have me. I know by how he looks at me and acts that he really loves me. HELP

What is the best way to DB this and I mean i really need some hard core lecturing here because I am the worlds worst divorce buster ever....