Quoting SBH-SAM:You know, you might want to discuss with your W the idea of joining the board. Tell her to read my thread - a few week's experience you guys could build on to develop a relationship on here...I just know it has been very helpful for me getting some support, improving my own PMA, and I have learned a lot.
Well, this BB is my private haven. I would have obvious concerns about sharing it with my W. It's not that I wouldn't want her to read/share insights with others, it's that I don't think she's in a place to be able to handle reading what I've written about her. Every time she senses me in pain, she gets anxious. Also, I don't really want her reading what I've written. I suppose I could ask that she not read my thread, and she'd likely comply, but I'd think the temptation would be too great. Heck, I wouldn't be able to resist reading hers. Additionally, I'd likely end up sterilizing what I write knowing she'd read it...and I don't want to do that...
Last night my W and I stayed up late and had a nice talk in bed. She at first inquired about how I was feeling and I said not that great (I was so-so), but that I didn't want to dump on her. I made a point of asking how she was doing (which I do often, but she always says she's fine...I think to not put stress on me) because I've noticed lately "it's all about me" and that's not a healthy R. Man, the floodgates opened... She spilled a lot of things she's been thinking about lately...about herself. Poor thing. She has some hurdles to overcome, but she at least knows what she needs to do to jump over them.
Additionally, I'd likely end up sterilizing what I write knowing she'd read it...and I don't want to do that...
