Hi, Jethro...Thanks for your words! SBH has the After the Affair book - I read some of it last night. It is SO painful to read about yourself in a BOOK!!!! [file that under "sitting on the other side of the couch" huh? ]
The really painful part of reading it, though, was not feeling "labeled" or "predicted" but feeling so sad and frustrated, because I have been in therapy for YEARS trying to work on exactly these issues. WHY did it take 2 affairs that ruined my marriage (though not permanently!) AND my career before I could get some help that is useful on this???????? I know not to blame others too much, but I really think a fair portion of the blame goes to several therapists I've had in the past 3-4 years.
RATS!
Well, I'm going to keep plugging on this. Glad to hear you PMA is climbing the scale!
You know, you might want to discuss with your W the idea of joining the board. Tell her to read my thread - a few week's experience you guys could build on to develop a relationship on here...I just know it has been very helpful for me getting some support, improving my own PMA, and I have learned a lot.
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