CF, I can't share anything that you are not already doing. Even your watchout on showing neediness/clinginess. It is SOOO easy to slip back into that....in fact, I slipped up a couple weeks ago and my wife told me she was feeling smothered again! The difference this time (the old me would have pouted...I'm embarrassed to admit)....I said thanks....gave her space....and the next day she APOLOGIZED TO ME!!...but, I still "learned my lesson"...give her more space than I think she needs/wants.
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today