yes, I think everyone has to say what I said, the gist of it, in their own way. It is harsh, the way I wrote it... but in discussing the 'idea' here, I'm more interested in conveying my point, than buffering it for actual delivery. I don't know that I would say the above IRL, either, but... I have to know what I mean before I say it. So... that's why I wrote it that way. kwis?
As for what you've said above, I think it is good... except for your last line.
For your sake as well as my own, I want some input from you so we can make some improvements in our sexual and intimate life."
BB does in fact have some physical discomfort she faces... but there isn't anything you've ever said here that makes me believe you are not willing to work with those issues. As a matter of fact, I think you give the impression that you are ready and willing to do dam near anything to help her from physical pain.
I might say something like:
"For your sake as well as my own, I want to know if you are willing to explore your sexuality, and I will help and support you however I can."
I'd say it this way because in the way you worded your last sentence... heck, she can give you input until the cows come home... and you still don't have a meaningful sex life.
You can't make improvements until she is willing to commit to ACTION. kwis?
You don't have to say exactly what I said... put it in Lou words... but do you see my point?
