Hi Jack, and AH, i have been trying to change me, and some of the things that i am doing around the house are to make me feel better and to keep me busy. I have thought about that what i am doing may make her feel better, but these are things that i enjoy doing. I love to fix the house, and i love to tinker on cars. These are things that i havent done for several years. As far as depression, i would not doubt that she is suffering from it. Jack, as far as the insurance thing, my thoughts were that if she really wanted out of the marriage, then why would she be concerned about the insurance for the next year? Maybe this isnt quite the MLC that i think it is. I do have good news to report. I had an appointment this afternoon with my counselor that espouses the sbt that Michelle advocates. This guy has a phd and is very sought after. My W and i had an appointment a month ago and it didnt go well after he suggested that we need to focuse on the positive and to look forward instead of back. She hit the roof and said she wouldn't go back. However today when i was scheduling my next appt, i found out that my wife goes to see him on thursday. He is totally pro marriage and he knows my side of the story, and i think he may be able to get my wife to open up to him. Time will only tell. I just think that this is a positive thing, because if she really didnt want to go, she wouldnt go. I will keep my distance and let her have her space. Not to make a big deal out of this, but my W and D and i went to church on sunday and the sermon was about second chances. In the bulletin that my W got and was reading on the way home, the pastor had a few paragraphs of reflection on the sermon. He said that some things in our lives are so bad that we need to start over from scratch. A second chance is what we all need. We my need it several times in our lives. We need to know that no matter what has happened, or is happening in our lives, that there is always the chance to start over again. There is a quote that he put in that said "I wish there were some wonderful place called the Land of the Beginning Again, where all of our past mistakes and heartaches, and all of our poor selfish grief, could be dropped like a shabby old coat at the door. And never be put on again." I dont know about all of you, but i havent been too religious in a long time, but that really strikes at my heart. I have to have faith that this will all work out in time. Thanks, to all for listening.
