I understand the reason behind the 2x4 you are wielding. People should try everything in their power to try to fix a M before deciding to D. But only Gwyn (and her H who isn't here) has the knowledge as to when that right time is, so we should respect her decision unless it is obvious that she is making an ill-informed choice. I personally don't see a reason why she shouldn't at least try Retro or WWME weekend, but I am not her.
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After giving up on 2 marriages, you will not have the level of commitment to the whole institution of marriage itself, to do what it takes to preserve a 3rd one.
That is an overly bold statement, given that you only know this person based on a few posts on an internet MB.
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marriage isn't about "finding the right person", particularly when you arent "the right person" for someone else right now.
Again, how do you know? On what authority can you make that statement?
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The fact that you are the one giving up on even trying retrouville,... for one lousy little weekend... when you and your husband had both agreed to try it.. shows that "you arent the marrying kind".
This is working under the assumption Retro would even work for someone who may not be open to it.
Like I said, I think your 2x4 is being swung from a place of caring, but I think some of the statements are ill-advised.
Gwyn,
I would recommend you try the Retro. But always try to make sure that the decisions you are making are the best ones for you and those you love. That's really all you can do.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
