Corri I appreciate your willingness to have sex. But... our sex life, to me, is pretty bland. If you don't want to own and explore your own sexuality, there isn't anything I can do about that. But I won't have sex with a female, even you my wife, who has no idea what that is, or even what I am talking about. I feel like I am having sex with a blow up doll, or a child. I want to share my sexuality with a woman who owns and takes responsibility for her sexuality, a woman who wants to share her sexuality with me. I'm not interested in having sex with a girl, for your sake as well as my own."
I am half tempted to say something like that to BB. What I fear is, she will take it as an insult/slam.
She already said she has no SD. OUCH.
At one time I was willing to accept comfort (my) sex, then mercy sex, then sex with a put-down attached.
Similar to Sandi2, but to a lesser degree, BB had some physical problems with sex some times.
Considering where BB is mentally and physically, I think the above quote is rather harsh even though it states what I feel sometimes, but does not consider BB's perceived predicament.
Do you think this would be better?
I appreciate your willingness to have sex. But... our sex life, to me, is pretty bland. If you don't want to own and explore your own sexuality, there isn't much I can do about that.
I am disappointed to hear you are not that interested in having sex with me and when you tell me you can do w/o sex. I feel like I am having sex with someone that doesn’t like sex but will accommodate me sometimes so I don't leave the R. You said you knew a man need’s it so you do it.
I want to share my sexuality with a woman who owns and takes responsibility for her sexuality, a woman who wants to share her sexuality with me.
For your sake as well as my own, I want some input from you so we can make some improvements in our sexual and intimate life."
