If you do follow through with divorce, may I make a suggestion that you do not intend to get married again. Because it will most likely only end up in divorce again.
After giving up on 2 marriages, you will not have the level of commitment to the whole institution of marriage itself, to do what it takes to preserve a 3rd one.
marriage isn't about "finding the right person", particularly when you arent "the right person" for someone else right now.
The fact that you are the one giving up on even trying retrouville,... for one lousy little weekend... when you and your husband had both agreed to try it.. shows that "you arent the marrying kind".
That's a cruel thing to say, Dom. And unjust. I think it's perfectly fair to say: "sorry, can't get over it" to a spouse that had an affair. It's also perfectly fair to have a lag phase of indecision, and then decide "sorry, can't get over it".
Some will decide their marriage is worth fighting for. Others won't. It's totally up to the LBS, imo, which way they want to go.
