My wife wants out !!

[dadtotwo]

Knowing how much the OM has been hurting me, my W opened up somewhat about her and OM. She reassured me, and I do believe her, that she and OM did not start until she gave told me she had enough. They were introduced only in passing but it was not an introduction because she had marital problems. OM has or is just finishing his D. He has children as well that he sees on weekends. My W has said that she had expected me to move out and is very sorry for the amount of calls made to him. I said that she treated me like a doormat and acted like I didn't matter. She said that at the time she was so mad at me and she felt she shouldn't have to answer to me.

I asked how she could do that while we were still together to which she said that we were under the same roof but were not "together". To her, we had not been a couple for a long time and that she was done. She has been done with us for many months but tried to wait and see if things got better. At some point she just gave up but didn't know how or when to say "enough". She wants me to understand that she did nothing, in her eyes, that would make her feel guilty. The OM did not come into play until the end. The phone calls were frequent and she admits that she should have waited until one of us left.

I told her that she was deceitful and not honest. She said that I wasn't either when it came to how I handled money and borrowed to cover expenses. She just does not undersand how I could have let our situation get so bad that it would jeopardize our family. She said that we did have a wonderful life together(when we had money) and she doesn't want what happened at the end to be the only lasting memories.

This new thing she is pursuing is a classic REBOUND RELATIONSHIP for both of them. She is seperated with kids and he is either D or close to it and he has kids. How amazing that a spouse can give up a marriage and jump into something new. Makes me wonder whether the vows matter or how fragile a marriage really can be?

Simply put..my W has made the choice to no longer love me as her H. This s*cks...