I also posted this question in early Aug. or I thought that's what I was asking but yours is phrased much better. Funny part or not so funny is when I feel my desire slipping I have a Cemar on my shoulder saying YOU MUST DESIRE H, YOU MUST DESIRE H!!! Ugh! I finally talked to my H, explained that I no longer had my OWN conscious but rather this BB voice trying to help me and how confused I was with my own thoughts, feelings (or lack of) etc. My H suggested to just let him know (and that it was OK) if I wasn't always having desire, he would help as long as when I was having desire I would let him know that too. Kind of just another example of what Corri said, she's sooooo smart This BB has really given me the courage & strength to talk to H about things I wouldn't have dreamed of years ago. And sometimes it is still awkward, discussions can last weeks as we get comfortable discussing things. A huge part has been understanding my emotions & feelings (Thanks again Corri!)where they are really coming from and how to respond rather than just re-act. For me, sex isn't always from desire, but it is still great. I ask H for help with my desire when I know it is low but I make sure his patience is rewarded when it is high. KWIM?
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle. (Amy Bloom)
