All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

Cat - was does your H do for a living?

One thing that H has said in all of this is that he works hard for the family, to be a provider and I guess I kind of took that for granted as I feel I work harder...So I suppose we have to support them in the down times and appreciate what they do do.

Cat - do you feel better b/c H is more relaxed? Does he try and work at the M?

I certainly have tried to not nag my H so much about the amount of time he spends at work. Like you pointed out, praise what he does do.. He has also agreed to give s's breakfast in the morning, so thats a break through. Thanks for that Cat.

Cat - what reaction did you get from H when you told him you loved him? did you ever wished you hadn't?

The advise about the girls is also a valid point. Everybody is supposed to do chores in this household. It sometimes feels that I have to nag to get anything done (maybe it's the way i'm asking?)

I am gradually getting better. I panicked about the holiday suggestion and then rationalised my thoughts and came up with the same solution as you Cat - but then I wished I hadn't reacted in such a knee jerk reaction way and regretted what I said. It hasn't been mentioned since he came home, so I hope we can move on and let the dust settle on that one. I realise it was too much too soon.

Thanks for chatting.

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