So he showed up at 7 pm on Sunday night. I was a disaster. We had a jammie day and I did not feel well so I looked like death warmed over which is funny considering during the day I was doing some research and found an article about how you should make yourself look good to get your spouse interested in your again if you are at the friends stage. Sort of make yourself appealing like you did in the beginning of the relationship before they saw you with no makeup etc. So that was my new plan and then he shows up and I am a mess. Not today though I am dressed to kill and all done up so hopefully from here on out I can do that.
Ok back to the update. He stayed for about an hour to play with our S and then he left. He actually said bye to me when he left so that was nice for a change and while they were playing he kept looking at me. I think he is waiting for me to start questioning him and pushing again and he is confused that I am not.
So today we did the swap of our S and he was so nice to me. I could not believe it and he actually said bye to me again after the drop. He has not done that since this whole thing started so another good sign I hope. I just did the swap and moved on my way. He has also called me three times at work. Once to tell me the dog ran off (left a message) again to tell me the dog came back (left message). Not really sure why he called since he has lost the dog before and never called me. Then he called one last time to tell me something that our contractor said about the addition we are having built. They needed a decision on a door so that was a legitimate call but then he kept talking about the dog running away etc. It was so weird. It was like I was talking to the old H again. I could not believe it. I actually took the phone away from my ear and looked at it I was so shocked. Then when we hung up he said see you when you get home just like he would before.
I am trying not to get my hopes up too much but it is hard. I know I may not be any better off than before but this contact has been nice and I saw my MC yesterday and she said it sounds like he has come to the point where he is missing the family environment and just not really sure where to fit me into everything. She says he is still confused but that everything he is doing is a good sign whether I see it that way or not. I am still confused but I figure she is the expect and knows these things better than I. I asked her if she would tell me if they were bad signs and she said she would so that we could work on that so I think she is not just leading me on but I do not see the good in most of what he has done. I feel as if he has pulled away more but she says that is not that case.
So any ideas?
BTW I have gotten lots of complements today on how I look so it is making me feel so good about myself so I am going to keep doing this for me as well and if he notices it is just an added benefit.
