What is reasonable and what is not?

[cpolk]

You have my hopes as well.

Though for me I don't think my W is in 100% but I think she's trying. I'm happy with that. I try not to think about the damage that this has caused. Personnally I think if things had been better at home for both of us (my W and I) that it never would have happened.

I try to stay focused on the positive and providing her with a loving, appreciative, and supporting environment to operate in. Something that should've always been there anyway. This won't kill you it won't kill me and we can learn from it no matter which way it goes.