Quote: Maybe you should tell her if and when the time is right, how hard it is for you to make a good appearance sometimes.
She acknowledged this herself a couple of weekends ago. She knows, but apparently, she expects me to do this anyway. Thing is, given what she said on Saturday, I'm a bit gun-shy about saying anything right now, as she'll feel more pressure. I've noticed in the past when I am honest about my feelings about how things are going or about her A, she naturally gets upset. Her getting upset tends to put her in a funk.
Quote: I hope this is just a dip in the roller coaster and things will soon be back on track. In the meantime, you describe your PMA responding to her PMA, so I think you need to keep a bit of distance somehow when she has her lows. And try not to take it as a reflection of you or your M. Could be just that she's in a bit of a funk (I can relate). If you can sense that happening, it's probably best to give her space, just until she starts to come around. This seems to be naturally when you want some distance, so that works.
I couldn't agree with you more, Robin, about distancing myself from my W. Thing is, this gets easier and easier...and sometimes, I don't necessarily think it's healthy for either one of us.
I know my W is in pain. I know she regrets having an A. I know things haven't been right with her for a long time. But, hell, I've been in pain for a long time too...and I'm not just referring to the first bomb back in 10/01.
