What is reasonable and what is not?

[Startingover2]

Thank you guys. I am feeling shakey at the moment. I usually get this way after I confront him doubting myself. He has a gift of making me feel like the problem causer.

He left rather irritated with me. Who knows what the next few hours/days will bring. He and I are supposed to go out of town this weekend. May be up in the air now.

Another thing he said that struck me strange was.....we are not married. If we were married and this was happening then it would be different.

So, in other words since we are not married its ok for him to have OW lurking around?