Jak, It sounds like you and I both have to work on the fear factor, and not allow it to paralyze us. In my case, it's working on building connection and intimacy, and not being discouraged by conflict or distance. In your case it's working on assertiveness, and not being afraid to influence your H to become better at connection and intimacy.
How is asking your H to acknowledge your attractiveness being needy or whiny? Do you expect your H to be defensive or rejecting if you ask for this?
What would you like your H to be doing more of (and less of)?
CL
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
