well, from my own bad experiences of what happens when pushing for commitment too early.. i'd say dont push it :-/

Most of the more successful recoveries I've read, happened when the leaving spouse comes back, and says, "I'm ready to commit".
It usually doesnt work too well, to goad/badger them into it.

Even when you want to take a foam bat and whack them repeatedly until they come to their senses.. i'm just POSITIVE that would help... wouldnt it?

;\)

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle