He pretty much blew up saying he is sick of being accused of things. =================== HA! that was the same reaction my H had whenever I suspected things (and I was right at the time just didnt' know it). It is his defense mechanism to turn things on you, it's text book ST2, dont' let him waver your stance, he just doesn't want to see things for what they are.
========================== He was very worked up and angry. I told him that he was the one who needed to put boundaries up with her. He was the only one that could do that. ========================== You are very smart by saying this, no amount of "I dont' want you to see her" will make things work, they have to cut contact with op on their very own for changes to be true and permanet. I support you 110%, you had to say this, unlike him, you do have an spine, he's just wishy washy and doesn't want to confront op and man up.
============================ gets so defensive that he backs off or says he isn't happy with our relationship. --------------------------------------- That's the cowards way out, you DON'T NEED this kind of a man, he needs to shape up, stop all contact if indeed he wants to be your man for real, dont' fear his reaction, you are on the right track and dont' doubt yourself, you are showing him you won't tolerate any more disrespect by keeping the ow in the background.
=============== Why is she clinging to a man who is having a child with his ex wife? ================ Cause she is a needy damsel in distress
Stand your ground
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
