What is reasonable and what is not?

[Startingover2]

Well, I just confronted him. I started off reminding him about our conversation a few weeks ago where there is not room for OW and he and I. I went on to tell him I know there is contact. He did lie and say it was every once in awhile and she is contacting him more as a friend because her dad is dying. I told him I thought she needed to find another friend.

He pretty much blew up saying he is sick of being accused of things. That is was not physical between them and she needs a friend. He pretty much lied about the amount of time they talk. I asked him if it ever struck him funny or strange that she is clinging on to him given our situation.

He turned the tables on me and said it seems like when things start to go good for us like it has in the past few weeks something always happens. Like it was my fault I rocked the boat.

He was very worked up and angry. I told him that he was the one who needed to put boundaries up with her. He was the only one that could do that.

So now I sit and wait. Going to keep watching. Need some support here. I am a bit on edge. This is where he gets so defensive that he backs off or says he isn't happy with our relationship.