Quick update and cleansing of the soul

[Hope_11]

I completely understand. However, XH and I were never blessed with children. In hindsight, I believe there was a reason. I blame the breakdown of our marriage on our infertility problems. XH did not deal with it and in return he turned to an affair and then actually got OW pregnant while we were still married. It is still so surreal...my life is out of a soap opera or movie.

Here is excerpt from an article I read a while back...
A diagnosis of infertility can affect a marriage relationship. Often the spouse with an infertility factor fears that the other partner will leave and find someone who is able to have children. Sometimes, if only one partner is infertile, he or she will even try to persuade the spouse to get a divorce. Once infertility treatment has begun, one spouse might feel that the other is less motivated to succeed. This creates tremendous anger. Sometimes the stress on the relationship is so great that one spouse will have an affair to prove his or her self-worth or even to demonstrate fertility with someone else.