I was going to ask if people thought it would be a good idea to tell him I love him? I know the books suggest I don't, but occasionally I feel he should know that I still do Love him. His behaviour often mirror's mine and I thought it may be a way iniating piecing.
The book doesnt' recommend saying ILY in the hopes to convince S to stay, to say it and expect the other S to say it just because you did.
I would tell my H from time to time whenhe was away that I loved him, and made sure I didnt' let expectation hang in the air nor leave space for akward silences, dont' see anything wrong w/that.
If he didnt' answer about the vacation as a family, perhaps he isnt' sure now, that doesn't mean his decisions now are final for plans 5mths in the future, a lot can happen between now and then.
Yes, panick and fear will sicken your spirit. Dont' hold your breath for his decisions, live on and make your own plans.
Thanks for asking Dis, my H is doing ok for the time being, work is tough for him now but he's acting more relaxed with me, almost like his old self.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
