Oh Jarhead, I feel for you. Please just remember that she is confused & lost. She is constantly looking to you for approval for what she is doing - always asking "is that OK", or "are you mad"? That does not sound like someone who is done by any means. Remember the whole philosophy of if it is not working change it? Maybe you should try standing up for yourself with her and let her see that it really bothers you that she is with another man (to whatever degree). While I wouldn't say for you to act jealous, it is sometimes good to let the woman know that you don't want her being with anyone else? Make any sense?
It just seems to me like she keeps asking you to firm with her and you keep just letting her do her thing.
