OK... so we had our "dropping D off at school" conversation today. She calls me either on the way or after. She tells me that she feels bad about not spending time with D because she was on the phone. She begins to tell me about OM and his divorce and how his kid is in trouble at school... blah blah blah. Basically, OM wants W to "talk" with his ex. He wants them to meet tonight. She was reaching for me to do or say something. She finally asked what I thought, and I told her that it wasn't my place. She didn't like that answer, and I asked what she was asking for... she didn't need my permission. To which she responded "No... I'm not asking for your permission,.. well I guess I am."
Now... I've been reading anger books etc, and I had to diffuse this one.
I asked her if I could be honest with her. I told her that I do not like OM and really don't like their R.. even if it is just friends. I would prefer to not hear about OM and what he has going on as it makes me angry and I don't want to be angry anymore. I was amazed at how calm I remained on the situation. She was not a calm and happy camper. She asked if she should just lie to me then. I responded that right now I have some trust issues with her. She asked what I meant by that. I told her that due to some of the recent issues that have gone on, I have some trust issues with her.
Well... she basically said that we were done and that I ruined any hope for getting back together.
We talked a little more about it (how she had lied to me.. she couldn't remember) and she then hung up on me.
I called her back to ask if she hung up on me and she said "Yes" I told her I'd let her go and talk to her later.
