As far as the 'permission to go' is concerned it wasn't so much me telling her that she could go...that was never the case. From all the books its more of a mindset for me to be in. I had to have the mindset that she may go at any time, that facilitated the 'letting go' of her that had to happen anyway.
All that actually seemed to work pretty quickly. Once she realized that I wasn't clingy as I was in the beginning and that she had freedom to go (I wouldn't have been happy if she had) the need to run disolved to the point that it wasn't so painful to stay.
That was a month and a half ago; we've hit some bumps, some larger than others. We seem to have found some calmer waters since September has started. Things feel nice right now. Maybe we are on the road...
Me36 W34 M13 K B10 B12 Bomb 06/07 Near WAW Me EA over W EA/PA over, contact with OM ended 08/07 W had to decide OM or Me; Still at home
