Well, I can't comment on whether S is good or bad since I'm still going through the S and I hate it. It's really something that one has to examine case by case. I know I give my wife anxiety and etc before the separation because I've done things wrong. Had I did DBing and not pursue/pressure her it may have made a difference and I may not have had to move out. But what's done is done and not much I can do about it. Now she's had some space and me behaving, things are slowly coming around I think..... I don't know if they will continue to improve but I guess one day at a time.... I think if your W can still stand you being in the house and you can set rules and guidelines to give really her space, then stay is probably a better choice. A lot less painful....
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
