RJ: But still... how to proceed when I don't feel it.
Well... I decided, I don't have to feel it. I let myself off the hook. What I did have to do was explore my sexuality and be honest with my bf about what I was/wasn't feeling and why... and what I planned on doing about it.
Doesn't make for rip roaring sex right out of the gate... but in a sense, it does release you from resentment, because you ARE in charge of your own sexuality. You feel it. You bring that with you to your sexual encounters with your H.
You let your H off the hook because you begin to communicate with him... try this... do that... how about this... can we do... you start laughing with each other at how dorky you feel... you WORK on intimate kissing, and improve it... kissing, really good kissing... IS IT.
Corri
Is this something that YOU realized yourself that you weren't doing before? I guess my question is, what made it click in your mind that this is what you wanted / needed to do?
I'm doing all I can do... let me rephrase that, I'm doing all that I know how to do to get this exact thing that YOU have realized about yourself across to my wife. I can't do it, SHE has to. I'm just curious as to what made it all come into focus for you?
