Dis, Your situation reminds me of mine...a lot. My W and I have been to the depths of Hell and are I think on the back side. Everything went downhill quickly following my recent return from Iraq. What the end result will be I don't know but things are feeling pretty good right now.
Polk, Did you read my other threads? I was just curious as to the details of your situation. Why did things go downhill? Was there someone else involved? How long were you in Iraq?
BTW, thanks for the service in Iraq. Sh*ty thing to come back to. Sorry that you find yourself here.
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The hardest thing for me was 'releasing her'; that is not holding her back. To come to the realization that you (she) can go and it'll hurt but I'll be ok. Then I ceased any communication with her outside of the home unless she initiated. After about a week of this she started calling and texting periodically. Since I've been able to get a couple hugs accompanied by pecks on the cheek initiated by her. For us the key was giving her space. Though things are much better now (on a 1-10 scale I'd say 6/7 up from a 2) the space is still vital. She rarely initiates touch but we've not been recovering successfully for very long.
I took those tactics at after the initial bomb dropped. I think this is what got us to where we are now. She has committed several times to working on us, but yesterday she was back on the fence. I guess things are still better than they were a few weeks ago. She isn't saying that she wants a D anymore and she is going to IC this week. I guess I should focus on the positives and give the space she's asked for.
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I hope this helps; I've been reading a lot of these post here but this is the first I've ever put anything out.
Again, sorry you've found yourself here. Start yourself a new thread so others can get advice to you. This is a really good source of support.
